Ok so it took me long enough but it is behaving much better . I went through the manual and adjusted all of the DDE settings again used JMRI to adjust the auto calibrate , and followed the manual for the rest , They aren't intuitive .The exhaust sound does get just a bit louder going upgrade ( I'm guessing that is because of the gearhead ) and it drifts downgrade nearly silent except for a bit of rod nock . Good enough for me !
Thanks for the help ! .......Mike